In today’s generation, it is inevitable not to be caught by people’s melting judgment about things we do. It has been a norm, I say, and it is getting worse day by day.
People around us tend to be more judgmental and easily conclude about something that has not been proven to be true. Their eyes speak, even if they don’t say a word. If they do, they are more figurative. Then they spread rumors without knowing the fact. Just because they heard something from others, they would construe it as a fact, but they don’t show it to you. Sometimes, we are being criticized secretly and we don't notice it until people around us change.
Have you ever had this kind of experience? If yes, how did you react? Like others, I also experienced it. It was not easy. People’s eyes were on you – staring at you like you are the dirtiest whore on earth. They talk about you behind your back but throw a fake smile in front of you. Because of that experience, I found some better responses to their judgment.
BE YOURSELF
I realized it is still best to be who you are no matter what people say about you. They don’t know you the way you know yourself. Whoever you are or whatever you do, just be consistent. If you are a happy person, stay happy. If you are a serious person, remain serious. If you are friendly, be friendly. But be careful who you befriend – they might be one of those who judge you. Just be yourself. You don't need to change yourself for people who don't appreciate you and accept you for who you are.
IGNORE THEM, WE ONLY LIVE ONCE
The more we buy criticisms, the more we get stressed. The tendency is, we can no longer focus on important things because we keep our eyes on people's thoughts. If we ignore them, or the things they say about us, we will have peace of mind. Imagine they don't exist in your world. We only live once in this world, so it's better to spend our time creating special bonds with those who are sincere to us and making more memories with them, and be happy.
LET THEM BE
People will always have something to say about us. There are some who are squeamish about what we do. They disapprove of the things that are not in their standard. We don't need to please them. Let them say bad about you. Let them think negatively about you. Let the question your decisions. Let them criticize you until they stop doing it. As long as you don't step on them, you are fine.
THEY DON'T FEED YOU
This has been one of my personal principles. It may seem funny but it's practical. You are in charge of yourself and you know it better than they do. You are the only person to feed yourself. Never eat the poison that most toxic people feed you. Anyway, you don't ask anything from them. You can stand on your own. Be still.
PROVOKE THEM
This may sound ironic but I think it's one way to tease people who do nothing but criticize. Those people have problems with themselves, not you. Do things that increase their anger, but remain cool by minding your own business. When you meet them, throw a sincere smile at them. They'd be more insecure or annoyed until they realize you don't have time for their insecurities.
EVERYTHING IS TEMPORARY
Just remind yourself that everything in this world will not last long. The negativities we experience now will vanish at the right time. The criticisms we hear from others and their judgment will be forgotten. There is perfect timing for all.
NOTHING IN THIS WORLD IS PERFECT
We are just human beings, we make mistakes and learn from them. We are not perfect, so do those who criticize us. They, too, are being criticized by others without them knowing. The fact is, we also do the same thing to them; worse is we even curse them to seek revenge. But this is not the solution. We have to understand them. They might be going through critical times. We can pray for them to be enlightened instead of revenge. We live in a cycle. Today may be our time to be judged, tomorrow might be theirs. It is just a matter of maturity and understanding.
Sometimes we don't recognize criticisms around us until we notice the change in people around us. The change in their perspective towards us leads us to a change in our beliefs about them too. We change our manner of understanding towards things. People change because people change.
Disclaimer: All contents are based on my personal views and experiences.
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